It takes effort to bring joy to a dating relationship, but the romantic spark makes it worthwhile. Keep the sizzle by following some fundamental rules.
When a couple first gets together, the excitement of having a new person to think about is often enough to keep the chemistry alive. It happens even while you are talking via a random video chat since it is a new experience. Over time, some of the sizzle may fade, but a deeper understanding and caring long-term relationship should take its place.
Each relationship is different, but most healthy couples have certain traits in common. If any of the factors aren’t already there, spend some time working on them for the ultimate reward of getting closer to a loved one. Remember that both people should benefit from a healthy dating relationship.
Trust in a Relationship
The most important aspect of a healthy relationship is two-way trust. To do this, each person in the relationship must be trustworthy and dependable, regardless of the circumstances. Without trust, the bond will disintegrate, causing misery for both partners.
How to build trust with a partner:
- Show predictability in actions. If something changes, be open with the partner to prevent suspicion.
- Follow through with offers. A habit of breaking dates will erode trust between a couple if it happens often.
- Expect honesty from the other person. If there’s doubt, address the concern immediately.
- Be honest. This simple piece of advice includes letting the other person know your thoughts and feelings as well as anything from the past that is significant to the relationship.
Communication Crucial for a Healthy Relationship
Being able to communicate is essential in a healthy relationship. There are times in the lives of most couples when it’s difficult to talk about something because it may seem as though they’re leading separate lives. To prevent this, make time to communicate.
Methods of establishing and keeping communication:
- Set a regular date to discuss what’s happening.
- Have short spurts of daily communication.
- Be willing to talk and then spend as much time listening to the other person. This may take practice for couples with one talkative and one silent partner.
- Show support in all aspects of the other person’s life. This includes careers, friendships, athletic endeavors, and hobbies.
- Be as realistically positive as possible. Others are drawn to happy people.
Partners Need to Accept Each Other’s Differences
Learn to accept the fact that no couple will always agree on everything. What often happens at the beginning of a relationship is that all the commonalities will surface, giving the couple the feeling that they’ve found their soul mates. After the newness wears off, differences emerge. Instead of seeing this as a negative, consider it the start of a more exciting, solid relationship and an opportunity to see things from a different angle. As long as both people share the same values, other differences can be either celebrated or overcome.
How to deal with differences:
- Unless there’s a valid reason for the couple to agree, such as whether to get married or have children, accept the other person’s differing opinion.
- Give the other person space to have friends with similar interests to his or her own without feeling threatened.
- Instead of allowing an argument to escalate with yelling, set ground rules before discussing the differences. Fight fair.
- Be willing to change if the other person has valid points.
Romance and Friendship
Most long-term partners claim to have as much friendship as romance in their relationships. The bond grows stronger over time as the couple gets to know each other as friends without feeling threatened.
Ways to develop a balance of romance and friendship:
- Take turns making plans for dates.
- Share private jokes in public.
- Show concern for the other person’s welfare.
- Find activities that enable communication like watching animated films.
A long-term healthy, loving, and happy relationship requires efforts from both partners. Develop trust, maintain communication, accept differences, and be friends with each other to keep the sparks from fizzling.
Building trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, which involves being predictable and dependable, as well as honest with each other.
Communication is key for both partners to keep up the relationship; regular dates should be set and mutual support provided.
Differences between partners should be accepted but also discussed in a respectful and non-confrontational manner.
A balance of romance and friendship will make the relationship stronger over time.